As the Lifestyle Editor here at The Daily Duffer, I’ve had countless conversations with golfers – from weekend warriors to aspiring pros – about their aspirations both on and off the course. We all embark on new journeys, whether it’s lowering our handicap, finally committing to a consistent fitness routine, or even just adopting a healthier diet. And almost universally, the start of a new year brings with it a surge of resolutions. But as anyone with a Netflix subscription and a half-filled gym membership knows, those good intentions often fizzle out faster than a three-putt bogey.
I recently read something that really resonated with me, especially after seeing so many of us in the golf community declare big goals. It highlighted a universal truth about why our best-laid plans so often go awry:
“Over 50% of folks have already stopped doing whatever they said. And the #1 reason for resolutions untimely demise… PERFECTION.”
Isn’t that the truth? We step onto the first tee of our new fitness journey, our new diet, or even our new swing thought, expecting every shot to be a pure strike. The moment we chunk one, or miss a workout, or succumb to that extra slice of pizza, we often feel like we’ve failed entirely. The pressure to be perfect is a heavier burden than any carry bag.
The Perfection Trap: A Golfer’s Biggest Bogey
Think about it in golf terms. How many times have you been out on the course, hitting a few beautiful shots, only to hit one bad one and let it unravel your entire round? It’s the same mindset that derails our lifestyle goals. We aim for an “ideal round” of wellness, and the slightest deviation feels like a catastrophic double bogey. But life, much like golf, is a game of recovery. It’s about adapting, learning, and getting back on track, not giving up at the first sign of a bunker.
“When our goal is perfection, there’s only one place to go… DOWN.”
This really hits home. If our baseline for success is flawless execution, we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment. As a lifestyle editor, I’ve learned that the most sustainable changes come from embracing imperfection, not fighting against it. Life is messy, and so are our attempts to improve ourselves. That missed gym session isn’t a failure; it’s an opportunity to re-evaluate, adjust, and understand your needs better.
Embracing “Good Enough” and the Power of the Next Day
So, what’s the alternative? How do we break free from this all-or-nothing mindset that often leaves us feeling defeated? The answer, surprisingly, is to give yourself permission to simply be “good.” Not perfect, just good.
“Once you take the pressure of perfection out of the equation, you’re free to just be good.”
This is where the magic happens. When you strip away the lofty expectation of flawlessness, you create space for consistency. Missed your morning yoga session because your toddler decided 5 AM was party time? No shame. Ate a burger and fries instead of that kale salad after a particularly frustrating round? No guilt. The world keeps spinning, and so should your efforts.
The key, as I see it, is developing what I like to call the “Never Miss Twice” mentality. Did you skip your putting practice yesterday? Fine. Make sure you get it in today. Did you opt for takeout instead of cooking a healthy meal? No problem. Plan a nutritious dinner for tonight. It’s about accumulating wins, even small ones, rather than striving for an unattainable perfect streak.
Your Playbook for Progress, Not Perfection: Practical Takeaways
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Reframe Your “Misses”: Instead of viewing a missed workout or a dietary splurge as a failure, see it as data. What did you learn? Were you too ambitious with your schedule? Was your meal prep insufficient? Adjust your strategy for tomorrow.
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Focus on Small, Consistent Habits: Instead of aiming for five gym sessions a week from day one, start with two. Build momentum. Once those two become second nature, add a third. Consistency trumps intensity every time, especially when it comes to longevity in your wellness journey and on the course.
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Schedule Your Self-Compassion: Just as you schedule your tee times, schedule moments to be kind to yourself. If you slip up, acknowledge it, learn from it, and then move on. Don’t let one bad hole ruin your enjoyment of the entire course – or your week.
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Find Your “Good Enough” Rhythm: What does a “good” week of fitness or nutrition look like for *you*? It might not be Instagram-perfect, but if it feels sustainable and moves you forward, that’s a win. For golfers, this could mean aiming for enjoyable, consistent practice sessions over striving for an immediate drop in handicap.
We see incredible feats in professional sports – the one NFL team with a perfect season, the rare streaks of brilliance in golf – but these are the outliers. Even the best golfers on earth don’t win every tournament. They hit bad shots. They have off days. What sets them apart is their ability to recover, to not let imperfection derail their focus, and to trust that the next shot, the next round, the next season, is always a new opportunity.
So, if you’ve already “failed” your resolutions, congratulations! You’ve just learned what many struggle with: perfection is an illusion. Now, you’re free to just be good. And trust me, “good” consistently applied, over time, can lead to some truly extraordinary results – both on the green and in your life off of it. Start again today, and keep swinging.
